昨晚儿子吃完宵夜,权杖规定的元宵,我试着去抱抱小儿子,已经几乎抱不动了。好像一眨眼的功夫,儿子在自己眼神的不经意里,在我们的掌心中忽然间长大了。
最近放下了很多事,集中精力在抓稳大儿子的学习同时,全力喂脯小儿子。老大功课没有丝毫的问题,脑子非常发达,样样优秀。小儿子依然是令人目瞪口呆的起伏,我只好日夜勤劳。昨天小儿子的功课及新的测试出来了,全面地上扬,松了一口气之外,又在想如何稳抓稳打。
喜爱嗜好、心态习惯、、举止风度、看事讲论是我在乎的事。至于劳什子成绩,傻家不怎么在乎。更不会去简单地奖励或惩罚他们,道理是关键。成绩至多是云,身体里的底质才是孩子脚底自然的土地。学问再好,獐头鼠目、狐步蛇行、猴疯驴呆般的,那就全完了。
权杖对自己生的孩子,啥都是满意的,看我和看儿子的眼神也是天上人间,不是一档子事。还会整日背书:你老子再跩,儿子成不了体面,你跳海去吧。吓丝丝地没了嘴舌的灵巧,还记得她的儿子就是俺的大爷。乖乖隆地咚!
其实,我哪能不知道不清楚。心里明镜似地认得东南西北,上下左右。教孩子啊,也是急不得的事。30年不练字了,能写好?不都是一样的道理。
我觉得,孩子的教育先从习惯、心气和思路开始。不理清楚,瞅着别人做自己是做不好的。很多时候,教育并带大带好孩子,不是简单的说教,你得和他们的心思而不是好恶走在一起。讲究心志才好。说到功课也是,哪有他们写完了文章我又过了目拿不下95分的?这不需要重复证明的了。假使,拿回家东西可以贴在墙上,却进不了他们的理解中,能有多大的意思呢?虚名浮利的事不是傻事是什么?
上个星期,老大学历史,轮到了香港的历史和现状。老外老师讲了老半天,回来还是不清楚。过问了一下,啊,知道了,老师讲了现状,没有讲清楚历史。事倍功半的做法。我也不是什么都知道,但说到香港,尤其落在中学的水准上,大概不用翻教科书,基本能说全。于是建议他从英国大工业机器生产读起,经由东印度公司转到大清王朝乾隆爷时的中国社会和经济的状况,然后以第一和第二次鸦片战争入手,附带点1900年事件的回放,把历史的筋脉先理出头绪来。成绩下来了,儿子笑嘻嘻,我也不去问成绩了。只跟他说,人,看见别人比你低,要学会抓住自信,还要懂得帮助别人,人的意义不完全在自我。其次,看见比你高的人,也不要低头,依然是一份自在的自信,为的是自己的心志,而不是别人给你画出来的尺度和方向。
儿子昨天的写作任务完成了,还要做成百年老报纸的模样。就用咖啡渍染湿了,平铺在车库地上,早上起来一张像样的“旧纸”完成了。具体操作计划接下来的是,将文章打印在上面,卷好,然后用红蜡烛封口,蜡干之前摁上自家手印(没公爵印章的关系),然后用一条漂亮的红丝带系好,然后交出作业。这些个小事,我告诉他,就是做任何事“产业链”般的必要的流程,也是各个步序必须的考虑,而不是拿出文章来交作业,拿分数。分数和钞票一样,姨娘养的娃娃,二流子,上不了大雅之堂的,在我不一样的眼里。
早上打印机出问题,还要赶校车,照片没拍下“显摆”。不过我肯定,小子全校第一。凭的不仅仅是文章,是文理。老师给最高分是自然,给普通的分数,儿子在我这里依然绝对是无人超越的第一名,因为懂了道理。我不相信这里有其他人是这样教孩子的,他稳稳地是独立无样的。风人的得意。
自己喜欢写啊,但跩的另一面是谦和和直面任何的不妥和错误。非常精细的活计。大嘴没用的,东西要上得了台面,拿在自己手里也要求份真实。所以,儿子的文章我只会非常偶尔地全方位修改,还是为了以身作则,告诉他们文字到最后该是什么模样。更多的时候,还是要让他们自己去完成,自己去修改,自己用全部的能力不是去欣赏自己而是要敢于挑出来自己的毛病,并记下以后如何做得更好的路子和要点。
文章可以“不如人”的,但如何“做”文章,文章从哪里起手,走怎样的风格和路子,为什么以及想达到什么目的,这些其实都是写作或作文之上更为精要更有价值的考虑。文字如何采样呢?一篇普通文字设计的背景资料如何寻找、如何编汇、如何从任务性的派遣中走入自己全方位知识汇集和通融的正道大道上来呢?绝不可能是一个直意简单的思考和随手。
我老是觉得,在孩子的教育过程中,更重要的是理念和追求层次的更高。别人和别人家的孩子我管不着,我的儿子是不许有半点低俗平凡的。任何的东西你只要拿出手,起码的是不能让自己脸红而由此感到羞惭。儿子啊,很快就会长大的,是成为一个平凡价值里的男人,还是成为心志和骨气上的绅士,对我来说是无比重要的。见过许多孩子,尤其是咱们同胞的孩子,真是胃酸。前天去了商场,别人的孩子再累,笑嘻嘻地,昂首挺胸自我感觉很好的几乎是全数,看看亚洲孩子,怎么会有那么多的搭眼弓背歪着脑袋两眼无光的呢?不信大家以后可以在众多的公众场合里去观察和比较。是孩子的错?我永远不会那样以为的。孩子打小就是无辜的,我总觉得问题在环境和家长方面。我的一些朋友老是“放野”孩子。也常跟他们说,你几多重要的事情能大过孩子的教育和培养啊?有些人不缺钱的,但是家里很大部分的事情,即便嘴上不说,说起来也会是头头是道,给孩子的印象呢,除了面子就是钱。是,都可以假说的,可是孩子的眼神永远不会撒谎,孩子的精神气和质地在一个非常长久的时段里更不会扯淡。这个世界即便是聪明人的数量不大,读人的本事好的我想是绝大多数,除非不在乎,除非将自己看得高过一切。
我们也都是成人了,如何坦诚地面对孩子和和孩子教育过程里最为重要的自我身份和职责义务实在不能小瞧不该忽略的头等大事。在下也是心得,也是规劝,都尽力争取做个实诚诚实的家长,好好经营好孩子的教育吧,到底算是共勉吧。
下面转发大儿子Calvin的昨日习作。里面的条例叙述和笔力,资料汇集后的贯穿及内在联挂,尤其是逻辑演绎的水准还缺了点内力。我是永远不会去责怪和看低他的。也不想去替他遮掩,为了几分不值钱的面子。让他在今天和将来学会经常回头看看自己吧。我想,这样的习作的意义才比较完全,于是他们也可能有更多的机会去改改善和提高他们自己。谢谢!
《The Atlanta Telegraph》
By Calvin Lee, 8th grade, age 13; edited by Jinyoushi, the father.
Joseph Brown Alfred Colquitt John Gordon
During the Reconstruction era in 1872, the Bourbon Triumvirate of Joseph Brown, Alfred Colquitt, and John Gordon, has come to power, dominating the Georgian Politics. By then, one of the trios has already become governor. They have done well in bringing the North’s investors for the federal Reconstruction Plan and such. Seemingly promised, but they also have a bad seed alongside the good: White Supremacy. They believed that the whites are far more superior to the other races, thus, stating that everything should stay in the good-old-days. They had owned extensive interests in coal industry, railroad industry, and commercial industries as well. These people also created the Convict Lease System, which criminals could be “rented” and used for work. In turn, the severely exploded would receive proper house care and food portions.
However, this did not happen, which led to the rise of Rebecca Felton, who had risen to protest the Convict Lease System, Women Suffrage, and the Temperance (alcohol). Furthermore, there were other sensitive incidents took place. One example was a man named Plessy was arrested off a white train simply because he was 1/8ths black. Although this was unreasonable and such an outrageous, the man was cuffed away anyway.
“KKK”
The other local breaking news was that the Ku Klux Klan (better known as the KKK) has been re-established. The shocking part is not about the re-arrival of the organization, but because of the fact that, the local government proclaimed its legitimacy as a club! This also relates to the Le Frank Case, in which a mob bailed the con out of jail and lynched him without proper proceedings. In addition, the worst was the set-up of the so-called “Anti-Semitism”, thus, brought up the race riot to the locals. A local newspaper spread fabricated false lies about the conflicts between whites and blacks, added more fuels to the flaming violence. Around 20 people were killed (both races). To be pulled out from the embarrassing dilemma, a famous speech was announced by Booker T. Washington. However, when W.E.B. Dubois taught others with his schools, he believed in the concept of his: “the Talented Tenth”. In this concept of his, he meant the smartest 10th population of the black people could and should be able to teach the rest in the educational institutions equally as the whites.
Reconstruction Act after the Civil War。
This is to finalize the focuses on the social and educational parts of the local society. Soon later, the International Cotton Expo was announced to show the world the recovery of Georgia’s economy. This event showcased the big company such as Coca-Cola and the other outputs of the
Reconstruction as well. Other sensation, at the time, would be Alonzo Herndon’s success in making himself a millionaire! Mr. Herndon actually started his business in the Reconstruction time as a lowly hair salon owner. Through his long-year strive, he eventually established himself as a millionaire! How did he do this? You may find it out in our next week’s news report on interviewing Mr. Herndon.
Disfranchisement is when a person takes another person’s right to vote. This has been a nationwide agony. The fact is, many people disagreed the blacks’ voting rights. They thought whites ought to be superior to the other races, especially the blacks. This is why the “United” States is falling apart. The County Unit System is another reason that deprives the small counties off the equal voting for the local but not so for the big industries and all the people behind them.
Yes, some problems are still remained, so as our struggle.
以下摘自美国百科全书:
W.E.B Du Bois: William Edward Burghardt Du Bois (pronounced DOO-BOYZ, /duːˈbɔɪs/; February 23, 1868 – August 27, 1963) was an American sociologist, historian, civil rights activist, Pan-Africanist, author, and editor. Born in western Massachusetts, Du Bois grew up in a tolerant community and experienced little racism as a child. After graduating from Harvard, where he was the first African American to earn a doctorate, he became a professor of history, sociology, and economics at Atlanta University. Du Bois was one of the co-founders of the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People (NAACP) in 1909.
儿子的作文画面非常精致,可是PDF和文档都无法转入,只好重新帮他补一些。谨此!谢谢。