（前言: 俺孩子他爹喜欢没事写点时政评论，俺就忙里偷闲给翻译了一下，并不代表俺的立场。分享的目的是让俺村里的乡亲们多一个角度了解鬼子是咋想的。好多事，光有咱自己的思想还不够，多听听多看看，会比较客观，所以，就在这里献丑了，多谢各位关注）

找不到老婆也无所谓， 男人多过女人的逻辑思维

文/他爹   翻译/ 他娘

今天我看了一个在中国叫“百里挑一”的相亲短片。和其他情景剧一样，颇具娱乐性，但与其他情景剧相比，这个短剧赤裸裸地把真实的社会问题摆了出来---中国人口男女比例的严重失调。

看完此剧后（一个小公主无情且严厉地给那个年轻男子评级）。我请我的妻子回答我几个问题，她是地道的中国人。不管我怎么努力，我总是无法理解这种文化。对我来说，这是与逻辑相背的。

自从中国1979年 实行一胎化政策以来，男女比例失调一直在增长。从历史和文化的角度看，一直是重视儿子的，因为他们能做工，继承家族生意，父母年老后抚养老人，并且传承家 族姓氏。几乎人类历史上任何地方都是如此。妇女，和女孩，只是他们丈夫和家庭的“财产”而已，而不是公民。这不是我现在的观点，从来也不是，但是，不管对 与错，这就是历史。

然而，当我思考这个问题的时候，我忍不住想到中国今天有六千到八千万男子找不到老婆的现象是怎么发生的，那是绝对疯狂，令人不可思议的。

如果每个家庭只能有一个孩子，所有的人都只要儿子来传宗接代，这整个思路本身就已经决定了社会上将会有很多男人。但是，问题是这个想让儿子继承家族姓氏的思路实际上产生了绝对相反的结果。男孩如果没有女孩来配，那他们的家族姓氏在他那一代就绝种了。

所以，生女孩被人瞧不起---但是，当女孩长到18岁 或更大一点的时候，却又比那些家族希望拥有的儿子更值钱。那么，如果我是投资人，我会希望有个良好的长线投资，在那个社会，我会要许多女儿，当她们结婚 时，会要求男方和他的家庭付给我女儿一大笔钱，因为，我给他们提供女儿去为他们传宗接代。那样才公平，对不？否则，男方家庭可以像恐龙那样绝种，关我啥事 呢。反正会有许多其他的男孩追求我的女儿。

但是，有趣的是社会本身就错了---男孩这么值钱，你在他们身上的投资，到头来变得一文不值！毕竟，如果你有一个儿子，而他又找不到老婆来继承你的姓氏，他有啥价值呢？你不会永远活着—但是你的姓氏会。但是如果你没有孙子，因为你儿子是那远远超过可以结婚的女儿人数的六千万男子中的一员，那么你将没有什么传承可言。

这是谁的错呢？是那些社会中自私的想要保留他们自己文化和传统的人的错。但是他们不明白他们试图保存的东西实际上却被他们的行动所毁坏。

如何改变这种失衡？哈，老实说，中国政府并没有请我当顾问，如果他们请我，我会这么建议：

1.       简单的说，就是重视女婴。给那些生女儿的家庭税收优惠。给他们更好的受教育机会。给那些生女孩的家长特殊的退休好好处，银行贷款，生意机会，

2.       就像邓小平“致富光荣”改变了中国人的思想一样，应该有一个类似“生女儿是和谐社会的基础”的计划取而代之。（一群男人在外面晃荡是很危险的，不如让他们回家去和老婆呆在一起，你明白我的意思的。）

中国闻名于出口各种产品。也许他们可以进口女孩或妇女。给他们提供教育机会，优厚的住房条件，如果嫁中国男人就给奖金，如果生女儿又另外有奖。

如果中国采取上述策略，六千万女孩和适婚妇女短缺的问题就会很快消失，消失的速度会比你能说“你愿意嫁给我吗？”还要快。 那些出口自己的适婚妇女的国家最终也会说他们与中国进行了有意义的贸易，且帮助中国通过“中国新娘” 和他们中国出生的孩子出口他们的文化到世界各地。也许这还能舒缓国家之间的紧张关系。

但是，有件事情是确定的----如果比例失衡继续增长---中国社会将面临严重的滞后及其后果，因为太多的人在当今环境需要改变时却死守传统不放手，而这个改变是对社会有益的，---不是毁掉它。

 在一个女孩不够的男人世界，是没有丑姑娘的。

（原文） 

WHAT’S IN A NAME?

IF YOU CAN’T FIND A WIFE IT DOESN’T MATTER

And

The Illogical Process That Creates More Men than Women

                                                                                                By Tadie

I watched a brief news clip today about a “dating” show in China call “ 1 in a 100”. Like most reality tv shows it was entertaining but unlike other reality tv shows this one lays bare a very real societal issue – the huge imbalance between the male and female population in China.

After watching the show ( and the little princesses who unmercifully and harshly graded the young men ) I asked my own wife, a native of China, to answer a couple of things I just can’t understand about the culture no matter how hard I try because to me it defies logic.

The huge imbalance has been growing since 1979 when China instituted a one child policy. Historically and culturally sons have always been preferred because they can work, take over a family business, provide for parents in their old age and carry on the family name. Nearly all cultures everywhere through human history they all have held such views. Women, and girls, have always been more of a “property” to their husbands or families than they ever were as citizens. It’s not my view now and it never has been – but, that is its history right or wrong.

However, as I ponder this dynamic I can’t help but think of the absolute lunacy that has led to the point where now there are 60million to 80 million men who can’t find wives in China.

If families can only have 1 child, and all they want is a son so there is an heir to carry on the family name , the whole process itself will make sure that you will have many men in the society .but the problem is that the very thought process that created so many men for the purpose of carrying on the family name actually results in absolutely the opposite being true. If there are no girls for the sons the name dies during that generation.

So, giving birth to daughters is frowned upon and they are looked down upon – but by the time that girl is 18 years old or older she is much more valuable than the boy her parents had hoped to have. So, if I were an investor and I wanted a good long term investment I would have many daughters in a society like that and demand, when they got married, that her new husband and his family pay an enormous price to my daughter and to me for providing a daughter so they can carry on their family name. It’s only fair right? Otherwise their family can go extinct, like the dinosaurs, I don’t care. There are lots of other young men to court my daughter.

 But, it’s interesting that society itself gets it wrong – that boys are so valued that the value you place on them will eventually make of no value! After all, if you have a son and he can’t find a wife to carry on your name what value is he? You can’t live forever – but your name can. But if you have no grandchildren because your son is one of the 60 million young men that exceeds the supply of girls available for marriage then you have no legacy to leave.

Who is at fault for this? The very people who through their own selfishness within society wanted something for themselves to maintain tradition and culture – but they don’t understand that the very thing they try to preserve with their actions actually destroys it.

How can this imbalance be corrected? Well, to be honest the government in China hasn’t called me for advice but if they did I would say this:

1.       Make baby girls more valuable, literally. Give tax incentives to those that have daughters. Give them special placements for advanced education opportunities. Give those parents that have daughters special perks for retirement, bank loans, business opportunities, and benefits in retirement.

2.       Just like Deng Xiao Peng changed the mind set of China to understand that “it’s glorious to be wealthy” a similar program needs to be instituted to say “having daughers is the foundation for a harmonious society” ( there’s nothing more dangerous than a bunch of guys hanging out together instead of going home to their wives – if you know what I mean ).

China is well known as the great exporter to the world of many products. Perhaps they could start importing girls or women. Offer them special education opportunities, preferred housing, bonuses if they marry a Chinese man and another bonus if they have a DAUGHTER !

If China followed the above strategy that 60 million shortage of girls and marriage age women would disappear very quickly, faster than you can say “will you marry me “. Countries that exported their marriage aged women could also finally say they have meaningful trade with China and could also help China export some of their own culture around the world thru the “China brides” and their China born children. Perhaps it could even help smooth out tensions between countries.

But, one thing is for sure – if the imbalance continues to grow – Chinese society will face severe repercussions and consequences because too many people have held onto old traditions when the current environment demands change, change that will benefit society – not destroy it.

 When men don't have enough girls, then there will be no ugly girls around.