古希腊有个神话传说。俊美的青年男子Narcissus 对池塘里自己的倒影一见钟情,爱的难以自拔,在池塘边痴迷于自己的倒影不肯离去,最终掉进池塘淹死了。死后变成了花,这种花就叫Narcissus.,是春天里最早开的花。见图。这种花我也种过,但花期太短,几天就没了,不象玫瑰,可以四季常开。
从Narcissus一名衍生的narcissism 被医学界定义为一种人格缺陷,又名自恋症。主要特征如下:
翻译成中文主要就是:
1,认为自己很特殊,很美丽,很有才;
2,极端喜欢和渴望他人对自己的赞赏;仇视不欣赏自己的人,并加以攻击谩骂和诋毁;
3,对他人的批评则高度敏感,幻想自己被嫉妒,被攻击;
4,只有羞耻感,没有负罪感,换句话说就是自己永远正确,凡事都是别人的错。
更多请见英文,网上有关自恋症的信息很多。这个故事告诉我们一个简单的道理:
装蒜很容易,正视自己很难。
患此症的人应及时就医,不然一辈子痛苦不堪。
Symptoms of Narcissism Disorder
An obvious self-focus in interpersonal exchangesProblems in sustaining satisfying relationshipsA lack of psychological awareness (see insight in psychology and psychiatry, egosyntonic)Difficulty with empathyProblems distinguishing the self from others (see narcissism and boundaries)Hypersensitivity to any insults or imagined insults (see criticism and narcissists, narcissistic rage and narcissistic injury)Vulnerability to shame rather than guiltHaughty body languageFlattery towards people who admire and affirm them (narcissistic supply)Detesting those who do not admire them (narcissistic abuse)Using other people without considering the cost of doing soPretending to be more important than they really areBragging (subtly but persistently) and exaggerating their achievementsClaiming to be an "expert" at many thingsInability to view the world from the perspective of other peopleDenial of remorse and gratitude